DISCLAIMER: Please don't act like these thoughts never cross your mind. I'd be willing to bet that 9 out of 10 people will relate to the following ramble. The other 1 out of 10 is in denial. lol
Have you ever met someone and thought, "They're not all that cute, but they sure are sexy!"? I believe that certain people possess a "sex appeal" quality that can have little to nothing to do with how attractive they might be. Something about how a person carries him/herself, speaks with confidence, knows how to wear the right clothes to accentuate their body... all this can radiate sexiness.
Of course, I've met women with pretty faces who were anything but sexy. I've also met women whose faces were plain at best, but as a whole package were complete knock-me-down sexy. Meh. I was always the kind of guy that was attracted to the girl-next-door types, so maybe I'm a bit biased.
I've always thought that people can become more or less attractive after you get to know them. Someone who seemed attractive at first ends up being annoying and they lose the appeal. Or someone who doesn't seem that attractive at first ends up being really attractive after you get to know them. Or, once you like them more, certain things they do or wear are sexy whereas you never would have thought so before.
And yes, sometimes you see that hot guy from afar, then you see his face as you get closer and think, eh, not so much. ha.
I understand what you mean. The people that look okay but when you actually talk to them and you see them and how well they are put together, its like Wow. Lol. Or the people that have all the sex appeal and you think they are the total package, talk to them and its like talking to the wall. >.< Lol. Sorry I took this a bit differently. Looks shouldn't always be the sole thing you base someone off of. :smiling:
I agree that some people I find to be cute and others can be sexy but not cute. Now, I am going to strive to be the "perfect mix of cute and sexy." I'll be sure to keep everyone posted if I can accomplish it. Hehe.
happens to me all the time and i pray the Lord has mercy on my horny mini~soul, unfortunately there are no beauties where i reside or if there are they'd be so far out of my league that they become irrelevant to the whole concept ,then again that is also relative i've seen beautiful girls walk and i say hello that's all not like baby how do' you like a ride on my pony ... and you get a whole other perspective when you get blown away like no one was there to begin with . Then there are girls that are not necessarily gonna win any contests but they have a charisma , humor and heart ..rest my case. Now i noticed i stopped saying hello to 'good looking' girls it's an insult waiting to happen ,oh did i tell you i live in Belgium possibly the most anti social people you'll ever meet , i know it is like that for me..The Dutch are just 30 km away and the difference is mind boggling i genuinely do not to this day after decades here knowing both of them & that's without throwing the French into the equation, can not figure them & fears out ,at-least i hope they're fears and prejudices there's alot of that too and it is not solely the baby boomers or the war survivors that have such dull dry attitudes ,the youth too ..but that'll be going far ,one could say i'm too old and not in touch with youth culture ..in my opinion it all a Big Pile BS . I had to go working in the docks for 5euro a day these kids all walk around with ipads & smartphones i couldn't buy even working ,then again i had to walk only 5min and be at a beech , i walk out the door and i bumped in friends of mine and others my family .After 20 years i can not count on one person to watch over a back pack. Some would still turn around and say yes mark you are not on this planet it's not our fault..etc etc have just hijacked this post or did i get carried away ?.. ;)
I agree. Sexiness has a lot to do with the confidence they carry, and not just their physical appearance. There's a lot of categories for a woman's appeal. Some may be just cute..others pretty..or sexy..then there's beautiful. Some might say pretty and beautiful is the same but..to me, pretty is just capturing a woman's outer beauty; whereas, a beautiful woman radiates beauty in her whole being--inside and out.
I agree with everything you have said here. Sheer physical beauty has a tenuous connection with sexiness, and "hott" is a related but also separate thing.@Babieboo_Annie - Cute, pretty and beautiful are definitely separate things, to me.
A college buddy of mine would say there are four different types of attractiveness in a woman: cute, pretty, beautiful and sexy. One might be more cute than pretty, another might be sexy while being less beautiful. Then again, this friend has stayed single...
I know this is true. I had never been referred to as sexy in my life I was always the cute girl... This year a guy/friend called me sexy... I was in a bit of shock or taken by that bc it was out of my norm so I asked what was sexy now all of a sudden and he exclaimed to me that I carried myself differently now... *shrugs*
And I've also thought the same about certain people. (
i was just talking to a friend about this same thing and we both agree with you on this one. to me sexy is confidence. when you know you are sexy you do not have to dress it up because you just know you are. but i do have to say that a woman that does not realize she is is sexy is quite attractive to me to.
Not one of the men that played the part of lover in my life was someone whose looks made me go "oooh, pretty!" Pretty boys were nice to watch, but I learned many had not really needed to develop much personality to get by in life. My physical attraction to a man has always come from learning who he is, not from being married to some societal ideal of attractiveness. Thus, I have perplexed some people with my choices, such as the Ugandan whose tribal ritual had involved filing down his top middle teeth to be shorter than the rest, and the skinny, stoop-shouldered, Mr. rogers-esque caricature of a man 14 years my senior. They, among all others that I have loved, became beautiful to me through knowing them. That is not to say I don't appreciate a hottie, it's just that I am not usually moved beyond the visual rub-up to further pursue.