This may sound familiar to some of my subscribers from way back. But I want to again speak on a few things today just to clear the air and to establish a clean slate for the rest of my blogging week.
I've been on Xanga for more than 10 years, and during that time I've never written about trolls and I've tried my best to stay out of the drama. (Don't worry, I'm not going to start now.) Because to me, it's simply not worth it. I didn't join Xanga to fight with people about beliefs. I don't judge my worth by how many friends/subs I have or how many comments I get on a post. It's silly. You don't win a prize and no one outside of Xanga (and many inside) don't care. What do you actually gain from these "accomplishments"? Seriously. Nothing. You get no money. No awards. No tax deductions. No bus tokens. No child left behind. Oh... wait. Sorry. Tangent. Got carried away.
Unless I see you at a Xanga Meetup, we will never hang out and spend time together. That's not to say that there aren't some of you that I would invite over to my house. But what's the likelihood of that happening if you live on the other side of the country (or the world)? Slim to none. Although, if I win the lottery, I've already discussed with the wife about an offline Xanga Tour. Visiting some of my favorite Xangans is a dream of mine. But I digress...
I just want to say that your blogging life is a reflection of your interests and those with whom you associate. If you don't like someone's blog/post. Just ignore it. Xanga has no law that says you have to refute the claims of every crazy attention whore. There's no such thing as an argument with 1 person (unless you're arguing with yourself, then you've got bigger issues). The bottom line for me is that if you write posts that are entertaining, then I will read, appreciate and occasionally comment. It makes no difference if you are 15 or 50, or whether your profile picture is authentic. I could care less. Just keep writing. Every post you write won't be worthy of a REC or front page. But that's okay. No one could ever live up to that expectation. You don't have to be perfect to be respected as a writer or even liked as a person. You just need to be you.
And finally, Xanga is NOT my job. So I won't be spending time trying to referee fights, mourning your departure, defending your right to criticize others or mediate your petty disagreements. If that's what turns you on, then by all means, whip yourself into a drama induced blogasm. Just don't forget what you, and many others like you, really came here for. Because eventually Xanga will start to look different to you when the only thing that's really changed is your perception. And that's when people start to leave. Most people mature over time, while others fall deeper into dysfunction. Sometimes it's healthy to step back and figure out which one we are and if we want to remain that way.
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