Everyone has a back story. You know, the details of their life that predates when you met them. The back story is an intricate weaving of life experiences, social environments, family dynamics and emotional woundings that initiate a predetermined response to certain situations. What I find interesting is that sometimes we tend to enter situations unconsciously assuming none of those things exist in others.
We may not realize a friend was bullied in middle school before telling a joke about kids teasing other kids.
We may not understand why someone is sensitive to large crowds after being lost at an amusement park for 6 hours when they were 7 years old.
We may even think it's okay to drag a friend out into the ocean, laughing while ignoring their pleads and animated protesting, never asking if perhaps they nearly drowned a few years ago during a similar incident.
What makes things worse is when the ignorant and uninformed take umbrage at a person's reaction without bothering to investigate their hypersensitivity. Sometimes we just need to exercise some restraint and compassion and perhaps get to the bottom of a matter. Perhaps then we might discover interactions that promote healing instead of hurt. Words that encourage instead of instigate. Perhaps we won't find ourselves being unintentionally offensive.
Personally, I love hearing the back story. It gives me greater insight into a person and helps me appreciate them all the more. What's your back story?
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