Month: July 2013

  • Looking Back on Xanga 1.0

    Xanga 1.0

    On this final day, I thought it would be cool to look back at what started it all for each of us. My first post on Xanga got 1 comment and it was from TheXangaTeam. lol Anyway, here is the post...

    I think I'm pretty much the same now. Still optimistic. Still hoping to keep people at least mildly entertained. lol So, if you're still on (or have access to) your first Xanga blog, post a screen capture of your first post, tag me, and let me know how much different you are now, from then. If at all.

  • My Excitement Builds!

    I don't know about you, but now that Xanga 2.0 is practically guaranteed, I've been getting really excited about how everything will come together!

    I have several things planned for my first week on Xanga 2.0...

    But what I'm most looking forward to, is seeing most of you there in your new digs and hopefully helping you all get settled in. So, hit me up if you have a question or just want to chat for a bit. Mi casa de Xanga es tu casa.

     

  • So Much To Say

    So Much To Say

    I am an eternal optimist.

    I am the guy who sees a volcano and appreciates the power behind its eruption and finds beauty in the lava flow.

    Therefore, I am the Xangan who marvels at the energy expended on negativity regarding Xanga's imminent transition. The basic truth is that change is coming. We know this. We accept this. What we don't yet know is what shape the change will take. But it is now upon us. It's like graduating from high school. There is an interesting future ahead of us and it is completely up to us how we fashion it. But before we hug, cry and say our goodbyes at the commencement ceremony, let's have one last round of virtual applause for this amazing place we all somehow wound up making our home.

    So in the time that I have before servers are shut down in order to make the transition, I want to put a few things out in Xangaverse that it might travel like a comet through space, returning to its point of origin some years from now with a new generation taking in the view...

    I have thoroughly enjoyed my time on Xanga thus far. There are so many people I've met and so many things I've learned about myself and the world around me. I am an information junky, so Xanga has been a gold mine for me.

    I have laughed.

    I have cried.

    I have loved.

    I have apologized.

    I have been forgiven.

    I've shared my love of music and writing.

    I've shared my experiences as a single parent... becoming newly married... and eventually having six children.

    I've chronicled my struggles and triumphs.

    With all the many places my life is scattered about, Xanga has been the single place where it has all coalesced, and I don't regret one second of it.

    @PrincessPowers: If I were to do one last TBO, you would be far and away my only choice. I cannot express just how enjoyable you've made this last year. I've expressed to you on more than one occasion the unique part of my life and heart that you occupy. So I'll just say... listen to the song.
    @KrisOlogy, @mellibella and @TheMarriedFreshman: My sisters in every sense of the word. I love you all dearly and I am looking forward to the day our families finally have the opportunity to greet each other face to face.
    @skylar_rose: You will always be a rock star in my eyes. A rock star who happens to be a close friend and someone with whom I can let down my guard and be completely open. That is rare and I'm so thankful to have you in my life.
    @SUMRdaisy: You are such a beautiful person inside and out. Though I haven't commented often, I've always appreciated your posts and all that you chose to share.
    @thegunslingergirl: I wish I could give you a hug that would make everything right in the world, and then laugh our butts off at inside jokes only you and I would understand.
    @olwd: I think I've had more fun with you in the short time we've known each other, than I have with almost every other person I've met on Xanga.
    @blunt_force_mama: Thank you for sharing your life and allowing me a glimpse into your world. I have so enjoyed it.
    @edlives: You have my deepest respect, Joel. I look forward to working with you in the future.
    @BohemianLotus: We get each other. I love that about us.
    @trunthepaige: You always fascinated me Paige... in a good way. I always found the contradiction between the depth of your posts and the flagrant typos to be hilarious.
    @BrittMiles27: I miss our interactions. We must remedy that.
    @CaKaLusa: You are probably at the top of my list of coolest people on Xanga. Legit Xangalebrity without the arrogance and vanity. Much respect.
    @akarui_mitsukai: We WILL stay connected. You know how to reach me now, yes?
    @baldmike2004: That drink is coming, my friend. This year. Hopefully, this summer.
    @firetyger: You know, there is a radiant beauty to you that is absolutely captivating. I think it comes from within. Keep being yourself because it's a wonderful thing.
    @xXrEMmUsXx: There is so much more to you than what people realize and I've so enjoyed learning about the exceptionally grounded woman you are.
    @joyouswind: If there was ever a name that summed up how I felt about someone, yours would be it.
    @Levanna: Such a dear friend, you are. I keep you close to my heart.
    @mycontinuity: I anticipate your happy ending. And when it comes, I'll be the one smiling real big.
    @AncoraImparo: There are so many awesome things about you. Thank you for being my friend.
    @saintvi: Next time you're in my neck of the woods, please allow my family the honor of hosting you for a home-cooked meal.
    @Lady_Kelacy: I'm glad to have met you. Hard to believe it was 4 years ago. But I still brag about it.
    @SecretNeverTold: Your life story is beautiful. It may have ups and downs, but in its entirety so far, it is glorious. I am proud to call you a dear friend.
    @amateurprose: I never realized we had so many things in common. To be honest, you have often said things I want to say, but in a way I just never could.
    @skittler335: My favorite.
    @doahsdeer: Thank you for sharing your expertise with this community for so many years. It hasn't gone unnoticed or unappreciated.
    @TheTheologiansCafe: What can I say Dan? You're good people. That may sound crazy to some, but I just don't think they really know you.
    @aSeriesofFortunateEvents: You are a kindred spirit.
    @Thatslifekid: No one else could make frisbee so sexy.
    @happyworld_ofharibo: Your brain is awesome.
    @SasGal: Our conversations of late have been incredibly fulfilling. Thank you for indulging my craziness and being so understanding.
    @ShimmerBodyCream: I just want to hang out with you. At least once in my lifetime. Let's make it happen!
    @Roadlesstaken: I still owe you a song! lol
    @Jenny_Wren: You know, I listen to Watermark and Christy Nockels often and for some reason, I picture you every time one of those songs shows up on my playlist.
    @acomfortingcolloquy: I miss your posts from Xangas heyday. Maybe you'll post more with Xanga 2.0?
    @Foodhog: I'm so happy for you, my friend who's now a Mrs!
    @vanedave: You are one of the few people I know would be down for some hilarity. I'm jealous of your comedic talent. There, I said it. LOL  If I had to choose to be any other Xangan, you would be at the top of the list.
    @lorelei: One word for you, my friend: genuine.
    @seedsower: Love you Beth!
    @one_eared_batman: Dude, you are like the poster child for taking control of your life! So proud of you!
    @karos: I feel like I connect with you on such a competely different level than anyone else I've met on Xanga. I love that.
    @Garistotle and @Persiankitty: One of the few husband/wife bloggers and two of the best people I know.
    @mermaid_in_jeans: I think you've been on Xanga as nearly as long as I have, if not longer. It's been a pleasure watching you grow into such an exceptional and unique woman.
    @SolidStateTheory: You know what I've always wondered? What is your REAL name? lol It's all good though. We had some good sparring.
    @everlastte: Are you blogging anywhere else these days?
    @avehnor: Sita! I miss you so much! You were one of the very first people whose path I was fortunate enough to cross on Xanga. I'm so glad we're FB friends. We've come a long way, you and I.
    @hilaw: One of the most underrated bloggers I know. There is just something about you that always makes me smile. I hope we can stay connected.
    @ItsWhatEyeKnow: I've always appreciated your no-nonsense approach to stating your opinion. Thank you for those many times you've left awesome comments on my posts.
    @randomneuralfirings: Yeah, I know you're crushing on me. But I'm taken. LOL j/k Where are you blogging these days?
    @VeryModern: You were an original Xangalebrity. But still found time to visit my tiny little blog every now and then. I so appreciated your feedback.
    @StewieIsMyHero: KP! My favorite (and only) text date.
    @sahel578: Another OG Xangan. Thank you for your trust and honesty.
    @beautywithin2851: My adopted daughter. I love you.
    @freebirdheart: Every photo you take is like a scene stolen from a movie. Your eye is so amazing, I fully expect you to be world renown in the next 10 years.
    @manofcivility: Hey, am I supposed to rotate my tires soon? LOL j/k Hey, the invitation is always open if you're in L.A. brotha.
    @Southeast_Beauty: You carry yourself with such grace. I am glad we are friends and that we've had occasions to trade thoughts over the years.
    @ShamelesslyRed: My XC from back in the day. I'm so glad to see you've found such happiness.
    @methodElevated: Under "awesome" in the dictionary, there is a picture of you.
    @Foxxy: Don't know if you'll get this. But if you do, let me know where you're blogging these days.
    @antisoccermom: You have always been a class act. I will never forget how you never turned me away when I had questions.

    If I failed to mention someone, please blame it on my head and not my heart.

    As the final grains of sand trickled down the hourglass, the one thing I hope that people take away from all of this is that it was evident that I loved this place. I want people to know that they (you) mattered to me. You made life so much more enjoyable and I'm thankful for the relationships we've cultivated. I would love to stay in touch, so please find me or tell me how to find you. Here are the places I frequent the most these days:

    • WordPress: http://myxldove.wordpress.com/
    • Tumblr: http://myxldove.tumblr.com/
    • Twitter: https://twitter.com/MyxlDove
    • Instagram: http://ink361.com/#/users/8687886
    • DeviantArt: http://myxldove.deviantart.com/
    • Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/myxldove
    • Pinterest: http://pinterest.com/myxldove/

     and you can always email me at: myxldove@gmail.com.

  • If She Really Wanted To...

    Sometimes I have to laugh at all the social networks of which I'm a member. A quick glance at the list on the right of my page and you'll count 20! What's interesting about belonging to all of these social networks is the fact that so many of them track me... both voluntarily (Foursquare) and involuntarily (Facebook).

    So the other night I wound up checking in to a few different spots using Foursquare.  I went to the bike shop, the gas station, the 99 Cent Store and then to Ralphs.

    What made me chuckle is that, given my tendency to check-in pretty much EVERYWHERE, my wife could easily follow my every movement throughout the county. There's no way I'd be able to deny it. I mean, it gives the time (on the day you check in) and the location! Good thing I always go where I say I will. Or better yet, good thing I have a wife who trusts me.

     

  • Focus Fitness

    Focus Fitness

    Remember I told you about my friend who's a personal trainer and I'm starting his fitness regiment this week? Well, we started yesterday and man... it's like my body has been CRAVING this! Yesterday, I did cardio (spinning bike) for 45 minutes and burned 824 calories! My average bpm was like 167! 

    What I didn't realize is how much food I have to consume! I mean, I do realize that as a 200lb man who's 6'1", I need more calories than others. But I could barely finish some of these meals before it was time to start my next one. LOL It's mostly lean meats, veggies and specific carbs like brown rice and yams. Interestingly enough, I was actually down in weight this morning since yesterday, even though I feel like I consumed a herd of cows.

    My friend has been great about keeping me motivated. This morning was weight training and I'm doing the Spartacus Workout. Man, I could BARELY get through two circuits! It was killing me. But I'm committed. I know what I can accomplish if I just stay focused. So this is me... Mr. Focus. Ooh, that's a good name for a workout club "Focus Fitness".

     

  • Double Promise

    Double Promise

    I promised you a poem and a song. The song was a blast to write, but takes more time to prepare with loud children EVERYWHERE. But the poem, although it took longer to write, was easier to present. So all that to say, here is Part I. Part II will be coming shortly.

     

    The Evolution of Us

    1.
    The initial intrigue that made me
    wonder internally daily,
    "who are you?" and "what's behind those eyes?"

    2.
    A simple introduction
    led to more frequent discussions
    of life worth living while our time goes by.

    3.
    This talk is such a good thing
    and the challenges that you bring
    make me refine my definition of best friends.

    4.
    But with me virtually distracted,
    you loathed how I reacted.
    Our dialog abruptly cut, such a mess, this end.

    5.
    Those days turned into weeks.
    No time was made to speak.
    I returned with little fanfare, though with hope.

    6.
    Pleasantries felt artificial,
    because you don't do superficial.
    And it took some time til I understood the scope.

    7.
    But the breach was firmly mended,
    and the season well extended,
    to continue thoughts exchanged and hearts connected

    8.
    And though you may not think it's true
    the real gift in this was you,
    Because you are more than I ever could have expected.

     

    Happy Birthday, my friend.

  • And Yet, My Heart

    And yet, my heart...

    When amazing people come into my life, they have a tendency to take up residence in my heart in the most natural and unobtrusive of ways. There's an emotional connection that is both tender and mutually joyful. These are people for whom I care deeply. As a matter of fact, if you were to ask me if love them, I'd say yes without hesitation. The problem with this truth is that it often gives way to unrealistic expectations of my heart.

    What do I mean by that?

    Simply this... my rational mind knows and understands that these people have other extrinsic relationships. In my head it's completely logical that I'm one of many other people who may occupy space in their lives... and yet, my heart...

    It doesn't change the pull inside me which yearns for so much more of them... the part that desires their ongoing presence nonetheless. I've tried unsuccessfully to manage this contradiction of mind and heart. And I've can come up with reason upon reason why this is so foolish... and yet, my heart...

    It's not that I even expect people to understand the irrational nature of my heart. The irrational nature of emotions that are born of sincere connection, fulfilling interaction, and being satiated by their spirit... and yet, my heart...

    There is no resolution found here. Just the spilling of a heart which holds people close and far too tightly. But for those who can see beyond the words and into the heart, this is for you.

  • Oversharing

    Back in April, my wife and I got new smartphones. Prior to this, we had stupidly simple slide phones that could do nothing but make and receive calls. I've talked about my phone woes before. But this is a different story.

    This is a story, all about how my life got fli...

    No, wait. Wrong story.

    This story is about sharing in the digital age. See, with smartphones there are many wonderful things now at your fingertips. Namely, sending and receiving images. So my wife and I are now diving into the world of image swapping. She'll send me something at work to create wonderfully awkward situations, and I'll send her equally stimulating images right in the middle of a MOMS Club event while she surrounded by parents and loudly playful children. We chuckled the other day because I sent her a photo while she was out getting a massage with a friend. She was already on the table, so when she heard her phone beep, she asked her friend to check it. Fortunately, the phone only flashed my name and the words "multimedia message". She said she would've been mortified if her friend had seen the photo. blush I would post the photo I sent her, but this is a family blog.

    Anyone else swap photos with their S.O.?

    And has anything like my close call ever happened to you?

  • Provocative Words

    Provocative Words

    Words are so powerful.

    Just a few choice words can easily affect your heart rate, your appetite, your behavior, your attitude, even your ability to sleep. They are not bound by time, distance or location. And yet, knowing that words are tools potent enough to start and end wars, I marvel at how carelessly we sometimes wield them.  

    Perhaps the draw is based on a desire to observe how others react to the words you've chosen. Some people are motivated by a need to feel important, to have some form of control over their lives. Some are simply master manipulators and words are their weapon of choice.

    Whether for good or evil, it's important to check your intentions, and to be mindful of the affect your words may have, BEFORE you unleash them on an unsuspecting world.

  • What It Means To Care

    What It Means To Care

    There are people on Xanga that I can honestly say that I love. And I don't mean love in some superficial, "I love ice cream!" kind of way (although I do love ice cream). I mean that these individuals have found themselves a home in the recesses of my heart and I protect that space fiercely.

    It's the kind of love that moves beyond simply wondering how they are doing and motivates me to seek them out to make sure they are okay.

    It's the kind of love that keeps them on my mind, and memories of our interactions make me smile.

    It's the kind of love where I know that if they ever needed me, I'd drop everything to come their aid. shocked

    They encourage me. cool

    They challenge me. whatevah

    They make me crazy. clueless

    And they (you know who you are) accept me for who I am... with all of my prickly parts.

    This is what Xanga has given me....

    LOVE.

    #WeAreXanga

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