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| If you remember nothing else of the things I’ve written, please remember this when it comes to one of the key differences between intimacy for men and women: For many men, intimacy originates from the eye. For many women, intimacy originates from the heart. 
Is one better than the other? Not necessarily. I believe they both serve a useful purpose. Men are more visual. Because of this, they help bring an appreciation for physical beauty that translates into affirmation for every female body type. Meaning, some men prefer short, stout women, while others prefer their women to be tall and skinny (and everything in between). This reinforces the truth that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and that women shouldn’t be overly concerned with looking like someone else. Aside from issues concerning health, they are encouraged to be comfortable in their own skin. Women are more emotional. They bring balance to intimacy by preventing it from developing into what would otherwise become a very superficial pursuit. One that, when carried out, is a detriment to relationships of any true depth. They also help men learn to understand the relationship between the “physical expression of an emotional connection”. This curbs some men’s tendency to be selfish in pursuit of physical pleasure. This supports the healthy mindset that women are more than just arm candy and their value shouldn’t be reduced to that of a sex toy. I honestly believe that it’s understanding these divergent motivations for intimacy that allow us to make a deeper connection with one another and bring about greater sexual satisfaction overall. The bottom line? Don’t settle for a one-night stand when you can have a whole-life adventure. | | |
| I haven’t been posting lately because I've been focusing on my new startup business. But more recently it was because my wife had been seriously ill last week and I’d been home taking care of her and our 3 small children. I’ve always admired and appreciated the way my wife takes care of our family of 7. I knew it was no small task. But it was only until staying home with them last week that I really understood all of the super human characteristics necessary to even manage to get dressed each day! Let alone juggling nap times, breakfast, morning activities, lunch, outside playtime, trips to the store (or park or MOMS club event), appointments, and still find time (and sanity) to make dinner! OMG!!! I used to think SAHM meant “Stay At Home Mom”. Now I know what it REALLY means… “Supernatural Ability to Handle Multitasking“. :-/ Anyway, in light of talking about my superwoman wife, here’s a highlight from last week with the kids… Me: “Okay Aaron, if you want to play with the Legos, you have to clean up the sand toys outside.” Aaron: (5 years old, going on 25 and whining) “Dad, I can’t do it. It’s too much!” Me: “What do you mean you can’t do it? It’s already been done! I’m asking you to undo it.” Aaron: (giggling) “Dad… you’re silly.” Me: “Yep. It’s one of my super powers.” | | |
| As a society it seems as if we value just about everything as it ages. Things like… Wine: (Paul Masson "We will sell no wine before its time") There seems to be a general belief that when it comes to wine, older is definitely better. People have paid out extraordinary amounts of money to own rare and highly sought after spirits. And houses: Although most houses fall into the "decrepit" category after 100 years (or less in some cases), there are still many houses (even older) that are considered "vintage" and sell for a premium, especially American Craftsman Style homes if they have all or most of their original "built ins" or have been designated historical landmarks. And of course, baseball cards: The most expensive baseball card in the world right now is one from 1909 that was sold for a staggering $2.8 million! Now, while I certainly think all of these aged-collectable are nice, the most notable and surprising exception to inclusion in this time-established ranking of seniority... is people. It’s really sad to me that as people get older, instead of treating them with respect and dignity, many of them are treated like a nuisance. An inconvenience at best. We cast our elderly aside like yesterdays newspaper. Maybe good for recycling, but more likely to be used as lining in bird cages. Where is the honor many of the aged among us so rightfully deserve? When did we become so careless with our ancestry? I’ve purposed to simply record conversation with my older relatives, especially my parents. I sit and ask questions about a bygone era that shaped the people they eventually became. People who fell in love, got married and gave me life. I realized a long time ago that there is so much to be learned from their lifetime of experiences. I learn about our country’s history from a first-hand accounting of events. I learn about the transformation of what constituted entertainment. And I learn about our community both large and small, as well as its victories and its defeats. So just remember, by the grace of God, we’ll all get old eventually. Make the time to give your elders the time and attention they deserve. Because the hearts of this extraordinary population, and the wisdom-laden information they provide are in a word... priceless. | | |
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Aaron: Dad! You won't believe what we saw at Target today!
Me: Oh really? What did you see?
Aaron: We saw a bag of Starburst that was ten times bigger than a mouse!
Me: Wow, that is pretty big.
Aaron: Yeah, but it wasn't bigger than us, just bigger than a mouse. Like three times.
Me: I thought you said it was ten times bigger?
Aaron: Well yeah, 3 to 10 times, depending on the mouse.
Me: Oh. Well, of course. lol
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| Okay, so I stole this from @mrswhatserface who got it from @lorelei. Obviously, some of these took place when I was younger and out of my mind. lol Oth ers will certainly NEVER happen. But it is an interesting snapshot nonetheless. 1. masturbation
2. mutual masturbation
3. sexual encounter with person of a different gender
4. same sex encounter (will never happen)
5. male-female-male threesome (will never happen)
6. male-female-female threesome (will never happen)
7. orgy (will never happen)
8. using a condom during sex
9. using another form of birth control
10. getting/giving spanking
11. phone sex
12. webcam
13. writing/drawing on your partner
14. combine food and sex in some way
15. sex while being restrained in some way
16. one night stand
17. tantra
18. orgasm three times in one night
19. morning sex
20. nooner
21. afternoon sex
22. middle of the night sex
23. have sex while wearing a costume
24. cross dress
25. give oral sex
26. receive oral sex
27. have sex with a friend
28. wait a long time to have sex with someone you’ve been crushing on
29. get a full body massage 30. fool around on an airplane
31. have sex with an ex (will never happen)
32. sex in the shower or hot tub
33. sex outdoors, completely nude
34. sex with someone who has a disability
35. sex completely in the dark
36. makeup sex
37. sex in broad daylight
38. sex with someone famous
39. sex with someone at least 20 years your junior or senior (will never happen)
40. sex with someone of a different race
41. an afternoon spent masturbating
42. sex under the influence of drugs (does Vicodin count?)
43. drunk sex
44. sex surrounded by candles
45. sex with someone in the next room
46. sex with someone in the same room
47. hotel sex (can be cheap, classy, or clandestine)
48. simultaneous orgasm with another person
49. sneaking off for a quickie in the bathroom at a party
50. sexual act that is like an alarm clock (wakes one of you up)
51. feeling your partner’s orgasm with your hand/fingers
52. kissing deeply while cumming
53. eye contact during orgasm
54. watching or listening to other people having sex in real life
55. ravish someone
56. letting someone have their way with you – be ravished
57. intercourse fully clothed, pulled aside just enough to make it happen
58. sex with a co-worker (will never happen)
59. sex in the rain or in the ocean 60. anal play (rimming/giving/receiving/pegging)
61. sex act in a movie theater
62. biting
63. voyeurism
64. exhibitionism
65. age play
66. sensation play (feathers, ice, wax…)
67. masturbating to orgasm while lying on top of or underneath a partner
68. In the snow, in the mountains, under a full moon. (must be full combination)
69. 69
70. falling asleep after sex with your partner on top or beneath you
71. two or more partners in one day (doesn’t need to be all at once) (will never happen)
72. sex with someone you hate (will never happen)
73. sex with someone you love
74. turning down sex and feeling empowered
75. sex with a virgin
76. sex with someone you don’t know the name of (will never happen)
77. sex on wheels – in train, bus or automobile
78. being blindfolded
79. power dynamic roleplay (boss/secretary, professor/student, doctor/patient)
80. sex with toys (everyone should try vibrator!)
81. sex in the woods or in a meadow
82. sex in a pool at night, skinny dipping
83. being on top
84. ejaculate (men and women!)
85. sex on a swing (real one or, if you’re not so limber, a sex swing)
86. sex in a park or golf course
87. watching or reading porn/erotica alone
88. watching porn or reading erotica with a partner
89. orgasm without genital stimulation (during sleep counts) 90. on an outdoor balcony, overlooking beautiful scenery
91. partnering with someone whose libido and desires matches your own
92. being treated like a King or Queen in bed
93. in the bathroom, while at a wedding, funeral, or museum
94. sex in a bar, club, or restaurant
95. sex on a beach
96. rough sex
97. being photographed nude
98. make a “sex tape”
99. make love for the last time
100. for women: floating on your back in freshwater (with your partner above you while you are weightless)
for men: getting head by two women at once (will never happen) | | |
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